Choosing a child's name can be a challenge!
Agreeing on a baby name can be a challenge for parents. Feelings or memories associated with a particular name or clear disagreements over the type or style of a name can make choosing a child's name complicated or confusing. We've put together tips to overcome any potential disagreements or confusion along the way.Let's face it, finding a name for your baby that you really love, but finding a name that your partner feels the same way about, can take the challenge to a whole new level.
It's often the case that you have one or two names that are quite strong and personal favorites, while your partner prefers the opposite. For some time now, there have been reports from the world which have proved that this matter is not so simple and straightforward. In many families, an odd situation has been created on it.
Our advice is to take a step back for a moment, be confident and get back to Notepad - together!
Example story of a couple
One couple claims they just weren't able to choose a name for their little girl that they both liked before she was born.So the mother went ahead and gave the baby a name, now her husband is mad that it wasn't the name he wanted and says he felt "bullied" into accepting the decision.
The awkward situation was revealed in a post on social media. The wife explained how her husband had wanted to name their daughter after his late mother - however his mum's name was very old fashioned.
His wife had said she was happy to use her mother-in-law's name as a middle name, but would not agree to use it as a first name.
They argued about this frequently and never ended up settling the grievance.
Make a name list...Then shortlist
Once the 'personal favorites' have run out of results, the best place to start is in front of a blank piece of paper (or a spreadsheet). It will save a lot of time and effort if both parties write down a list of names they like and are happy to discuss further, let's call it a 'shortlist' (although really, the longer the better! )Aim for at least thirty or fifty names each, then share the lists with each other and eliminate names that each of you might disagree with. Try to spend as much time filling your list with as many names as possible. Thirty to fifty names each may seem like a tall order, but it's important because once you get into the swing of researching and discovering new names, the list will grow very quickly. If you're looking for inspiration, visit the baby names section at BabyNamesFind.com.
At this time we are not expecting any of the names in the lists to match, however if they do, great! Once the lists have been narrowed down to a handful of 'maybes', it's time to get together and discuss the reasons why these names appealed to each of you. Is it the letters of the word, the style of the name, the length, the origin or just the sound of it?
Try to pin down some of the reasons why the two of you didn't immediately bond with these names, and use that information as a focus as you continue your search. It may also help if you both write and share a list of 'no-go' names, these may be names of mortal enemies, rivals or former partners, classmates or colleagues. This can save time and energy and avoid awkward conversations.
